Keeping hubby first.
The woman of your man’s dreams makes him number one. Above every other human relationship – above parents, above children, and above all others. She safeguards her marriage against the inevitable forces that threaten to wedge their way between her and her husband and stands as a sentry to protect them against anything that would prey them apart.
Next to God, you husband needs to be the most important person in your life. Among the most common problems in marriages today are issues related to sex, money, and in-laws. Mother-in-law jokes are plentiful but in-law problems are no laughing matter.
I hold on to Genesis 2:24 as a primary directive, HUSBAND YOU NEED TO LEAVE BEFORE YOU CAN CLEAVE.
“A man shall leave his father, and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife: they shall become one flesh.”Genesis 2:24 NKJV
Remember the most important family unit God has ordained in your life is you and your husband. When it comes to extended family, a few questions needs to be addressed:
- How often do we visit?
- How long do we stay?
- How long do the in-laws stay, when they come to visit?
- Where do we spend Christmas, Mothers-day, and Fathers-day?
- Do we spend vacations with extended family?
- How much do we tell them about our marriage?
- Our marital struggles?
- Our parenting decisions?
YES, God calls us to honour our father and our mother, Moses wrote, “Honour your father and your mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”Exodus 20:12 NLT
Honouring does not mean letting them order you around, prey into your personal finances, tell your kids to get haircuts, or rearranging your cabinets each time they visit. It simply means you honour their position.
What about when the kids start coming?
Do you remember that childhood chant? “First comes love, them comes marriage, then comes the baby in the golden carriage.” As children we never bothered to wonder what happens next. I have seen too many marriage receive the gift of life only to push the husband into second place. Obviously a child requires more time and energy that a grown man, but a skilful wife will assure her guy that he is still number one in her heart.
Giving your children the security of knowing their parents love each other, is the best gift you can give them.
“Today’s typical wife, as soon as she becomes a parent, begins to act as if she took a marriage vow that read, ‘I take you to be my husband, until children do us part.'”Dr John Roseman
You know what they say, sex makes little kids, and kids make little sex. One way or another, having kids will effect your marriage. Don’t let that new little man in your life, dethrone the ruling king. And make sure that little prinses who stole your husband’s heart knows you are still the queen.
2 Week Challenge – Day 7
- Text your husband a love note or post on social media with the hashtag #crazyaboutmyman, #crazyinlove, or #happywife.
- Make him his favourite dinner. Make sure to set the table and involve the kids. Ask them to tell dad why they love him.
- Ask your husband how you can pray for him today. That will let him know you love and care for him.
Lord, thank you for helping me through the first week of the romance challenge. Help me to make my husband number one in my life. Show me where I have rearranged my priorities and help me to make the necessary changes. Help us father to show our kids what a marriage should look like. Thank you for blessing me with my husband, help me to show him how much he means to me. I pray this in Jesus Name, AMEN.
Ons almal het 4 ‘basics needs’ en soos gewoonlik verskil mans en vrouens soos dag en nag. Kom gesels saam en vind uit wat maak jou gelukkig maar meer belangrik, wat maak jou maat gelukkig. Jou man her vervulling in die volgende afdelings nodig: Respek Seks Vriendskap Huishoudelike hulp
Ons almal trou met die idee dat ons huwelik prentjie mooi gaan wees, kom ons wees eerlik jy hou nie altyd van die prentjie wat jy gekies het nie.
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